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Compassionate Friends is a starter. Then there is Parents of Murdered Children and Other Survivors of Homicide who do great work with survivors. POMC like Compassionate Friends are national orgs so should have a chapter near your home. Local crime victims assistance also might have groups. POMC has participated in OKC and in the WTC aftermath.

Just be patient with yourself, endulge yourself a little. Cry if you feel like it, laughter is ok as it has healing in it. Talk about your Loved One, the good, the bad, the everday things that made you love them. Most of all talk to GOD.

The first year after Jeremy's murder I cried at the drop of a pin. Even found myself going clothes shopping for him, when I realized what I was doing, I just left the cart sitting in the isle and fled the store in tears. Going to the cemetary and caring for his grave was a compulsion that eased with time. Still hurts, still brings tears 13 years later. The hurt will never go away, just gets easier to bear as time brings distance.

I help others with their parole protest as an outlet for my anger and rage at the "injustice" system. The more I find out about the "injustice system" the more I get fed up with BOTH parties for their love of pork projects like golf courses, instead of prisons and executions.

Your comments are very helpful - and maybe are some organizations for Mrs. Chief or those with her to explore: Compassionate Friends is a starter. Other Survivors of Homicide.........I know someone whose sone was killed in a motorcycle accident at age 19. She got through it with Compassionate Friends - and then became active in helping others through their pain and loss.

You are so right about our "injustice" system. You have certainly had experience fighting that fight - (re: fighting the parole of the person who killed your child!). Thank you for your comments - everything you have said is important and helpful.

My Jeremy was 16, is 16 will always be 16. I lost my mom a couple of years ago to cancer, my step-dad a few years before that to cancer. My Brian was born with a viral infection and lived only 33 days. There is no time table for grief Mrs. Chief, my prayers are winged upwards asking Our Father to bring you comfort for He is the ultimate source of our comfort. Our Loved Ones along with our Savior await us in heaven.