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I am not thin. I am 5' 6" and wear a size 12. I have been that size since my mid-twenties. I never had a problem attracting men. I married a wonderful guy who likes curves. After my son was born, I ballooned to a size 16. I lost that weight and have stayed at size 12 since then. A girlfriend (size 4!) tried to encourage me to go to a size 8. I told her that I didn't consider a 12 to be an extra large size. (I guess that everything is relative.) My doctor says that I am not obese, so why should I try in my mid-forties to be the size that I was at age 16? I exercise and feel OK about myself. I admire slender women, but have no desire to whittle myself down to their size. I like to cook and hate to diet. Thank goodness, my husband loves me just the way that I am.

My size 4 girlfriend is always on some new diet because her husband makes snide comments about the size of her behind!!! Frankly, I think that she is perfect in that department and can not fathom why he thinks otherwise. He insults her in front of people at parties by complaining about the amount of food that she is eating! It is embarrassing--especially since most people view his wife as having a very slender figure! My husband and I think that he is a jerk...

Hear, hear, sister. I'm 5'4 and wear a 10. The way I look at it, "boys" are attracted to "girls". Men want women. I never wanted to attract a boy.

I have a friend who has disproportionately large (a-hem) attributes... both top and (especially) bottom. She dresses nicely, has a perfect complexion, carries herself well and causes fistfights wherever she goes. She told me (with tears in her eyes) that she doesn't know why men go so insane over her when she walks into a room. She's definitely not the supermodel type and she doesn't flaunt. I grinned, patted her on the back and told her that her body screamed, "***k me. I will bear your children." Everything about her says REPRODUCTION and men pick up on that.

No. I can't say that I'm ashamed of being a fully formed woman. Real men want a lady with a bit of junk in her trunk, not a little girl.