1. "Unrealized Expectations." We tend to have expectations of our mates that are so unrealistic (figment of our own imagination) so we set ourselves up for failure from the beginning.
2. We all have positives and negatives about us. If we CHOOSE to emphasize the negatives about our mate, then we set ourselves up for failure. If we concentrate on the positives, we will tend to see ourselves and our mates in a much brighter light. It is OUR personal choice which one we emphasize.