She doesn't have to come home every night to a selfish pig. She's not angry at him; she's at peace. I personally think divorce should be much harder to get because of it's effects on the children, but I'll tell you, I could not live with a man who wanted me to work, and then didn't lift a finger to help.
I don't know if divorce should be harder to get or not, I don't see how living in home with a lot of tension or bitterness is good for children, and it can't be good for them to see one lazy parent abuse the other. I think parents should all just grow up and realize that when they divorce, the kids should not divorce a parent. Just work it out somehow so both parents can spend time with the kids, forget using the kids to get revenge and put their needs first. Don't move kids to another city, don't try to make them choose between two parents they love.