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Several have been posted on this thread, some by me. Check 'em out and offer your own. Just don't do that repeat the same post four times thing.

One solution that will never get past GO, (trial lawyers too politically powerful):

Remove the lawyers from the equasion. Require each party to represent themselves in front of a jurist (judge).

CPA's can handle the distribution of assets.

I popped that question asking for a solution right after I read the article. I read the article because the title suggested it would contain an answer to the problem. I found no answer so I asked the question. I asked before I read the thread. My bad.

I see the root cause of the problem wholly contained within Rudder's post # 8:

In the beginning of a marriage the woman thinks she can change the man and the man thinks the woman will never change. Both are wrong.

I have no statistical data to back it up, but I believe the vast majority of all marriages die for this reason. If we could somehow attack this problem we may be solve the greater problem. If we could solve this problem it would not matter if we had no fault divorces or if the courts favored the mother. If we could get men and women to form realistic expectations of each other, there would be far fewer disappointments and many more happy marriages.

How to solve the problem? It is an educational issue. If schools would teach realistic expectations to kids they might learn it. If TV shows and Movies delt with themes of realistic expectations, the message might get out. The problem with this is that the teachers and everyone else who would be needed get the message out are probably embedded in their own unrealistic expectations.

Could this work? I think so. In my lifetime, I have never seen one person ever change another person by the usual methods (lecturing, force, guilt, argument, logic, etc). The only thing that any person cans do to change another is to change themselves. When a person changes themselves they break the feedback cycle that is keeping all parties stuck in an infinite and reinforcing loop.