--HOW can I love you better between now and New Year's?
--What have you most liked about yourself the last couple of months?
--Would you most like a shoulder/neck massage, a hand massage, a scalp massage or a foot massage? OK, relax, here goes . . .
--What pesky chore could I do for you today/this week?
--Do you like flowers or funny/sentimental cards most as surprises?
--Is there anything I could find for you on the internet that would bless you/thrill you/help you this week?
If you had extra money, what special book/food/toy/techie thing would you most like but not dare buy for yourself?
--Here's the receipt/reservation for you and spouse at this fancy hotel including sauna, massage, gym, pool and all meals for the weekend. Go tune into each other and have some fun. . . the costs are covered; don't think about them.
--Hey, son, it's been too long. Would you be willing to go for a drive with me to see some scenery and catch up with each other?
--Dear son, here's some sentences and a few paragraphs about what I've learned about myself and life. You can at least learn a bit more about your old dad but maybe you can learn a few things about life that might save you some bruises.
--Dear son/daughter, here's some things I'd give you if I had the supernatural power/ability to give such to you . . .
--Dear son/daughter, here's some things I really like about you. And here are some memories I will always treasure.
--Dear son/daughter/spouse, here's 7 cards with possibilities for time with me/help from me. Please choose 4 of them for the next 2 months.
--Hey Loved one, what would you most like from me in the next 5 weeks?
--These are the things I love most about you. . . .