And you think you should be admired for your "control"!
No, lady, you should be pitied if you can't enjoy the feeling of warmth associated with a big hug.
We give cyber hugs in an attempt to convey that feeling.
Coldness, or as you call it, "control", is not a prerequisite for conservatism or liberalism.
To perform the act of hugging, hold out your arms and grasp the other person, either mentally or physically, and allow them to do the same to you.
Press their body close to yours and feel the warmth flowing in both directions.
TRY IT!
You might like it!