I'm quite confident that the Taliban was absolutely shocked that Bush wouldn't negotiate his demands, because EVERYTHING is negotiable in their culture, and a statement that something isn't negotiable is merely a negotiating ploy. They still can't believe it.
But as far as shame goes, America is in no danger of feeling that, at least for right now.
Nobody felt any shame for the way we defeated Japan at the time. It was only later when the girlieman PC crowd gained political power that the Smithsonian depicted the Hiroshima bombing as a war crime, etc.
Maybe the Taliban ought to hit us up for reparations in about 30 years, but for right now they should forget shame as a weapon.