She did, Barbara Olson was on the plane that crashed into the Pentagon; they were friends.
In fact, I believe that the "invade 'em and convert 'em" comment was made at the end of a eulogy to Barbara--anyone with half a heart and/or brain could tell that not only was Ann writing tongue-in-cheek, but from a grieving heart as well.
On another note, having re-read Goldberg's column, I think I've seldom read such a catty collection of sanctimonious cheap-shots outside the liberal press. If this is how Goldberg presents his side of the story, Ann's characterization of him as a "girly boy" is devastatingly appropriate.
Mommy's little boy, Jonah...having a hissy fit