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As a 26-year old Catholic bachelor who has never had a girlfriend and has been unwilling to walk through the emotional minefield of the singles scene, I find the notion of courtship expressed in this article appealling in several ways. I have come to be sceptical of the notion of romantic love as the basis of finding a compatible marriage partner for two reasons:(a) it is a rationalization for impure thoughts and actions outside marriage--mental fornication, in other words and (b) it obscures the primacy of other qualities as mentioned in the article for a stable marriage. On a more pragmatic note, I find this method of quasi-arranged marriage fraught with far fewer emotional and spiritual dangers. As long as a man has a clear idea what he is looking for in a wife, it is much easier to find her. Moreover, he will not let passing emotions guide his judgment, with the attendant bad results that follow therefrom. Taking pragmatism even further, many traditionally-minded or conservative young Catholic men (and women) are all too aware how few like-minded Catholic women (and men) there are out there. There is not that large a selection for both sides to choose from, so we do have to choose carefully. I wish I had known about this movement years ago. But I'm just as happy to discovered it now.