Once you start compromising, it’s all bravado to say anything different.
I will have lived in Japan 39 years this coming September . My wife is Japanese and we have one daughter ( we wanted another kid but her doctor advised against it for several reasons ) who is a high school teacher . Her husband is also a high school teacher . They have a son who’ll be 3 in August and she is expecting her second child in December . Life has been good here. Moving to Japan , I feel , was my fate .