“I know a lot of very unhappy women who follow the gospel.”
100% true. Often, “unhappy” = “miserable”.
This makes it sound like it’s all on the women, i.e., if they follow the Gospel their lives will be hunky-dory. The husband also has to be on that path or nothing works.
My point about these women is that they are unhappy because they have priced themselves off the market with self-perceived spiritual-superiority and wrong-perception of the Christian-males around them. When prospective Christian male encounters one of these miserable females, he is treated like the furniture, because he is not “God’s Best”. They are unhappy because they are superior. They are self-superior because they know more Scripture than Dallas Seminary. “Follow the Gospel” is different from “believing on one’s self that one’s self follows the Gospel”. They know every verse of Proverbs31, but when it comes to acting in a deferential way, accepting way, to a man who is NOT “God’s Best”, it never enters the mind. To get what I am referring to - some in this forum have mentioned both Chinese and Mennonite or German Baptist women. I would point out that the Chinese/Mennonite/German Baptist do have this good attitude that suburban-evangelical-christian-Karen does not have. It is a willingness to be receptive and happy and receiving of an actual real world male. But suburban-christian-evangelical-Karen treats that man as furniture - she can’t even bear to make chit-chat with him. If we could send all the American women to German Baptist Chinese Re-education Camp, it would be the only time in history this crunchy-conservative would favor it.