You sound like you care too much what these church women think. Forget them. Marry one of the likely girls you’re successful with, have kids, take kids to church, invite mom along.!Who knows, maybe God wants you to make a believer out of one of these pagans.
I can’t. It is not possible for a Christian to marry a non-Christian. I am bound by the Scripture. I have turned down pagan women wanting me for many years. I did this for God and my Christian sisters. All it gains you is suffering and the scorn of your own sisters. Its ridiculous. These posts are an appeal to the preachers and the fathers: you must change what is happening in the brains of the females. Or Christianity will have a population collapse (which we all know is the goal), and Christian men will die deaths of despair.