Ok, I am going to ask you guys, because I want some opinion here.
Do any of you NOT like the pop-in? I hate to sound unfriendly, but the other day I had a couple pop in for a visit, no phone call, just out of the blue. I hadn’t had my shower, my place needed some sprucing up because I have been outside so much, I had no goodies to offer them with coffee or tea, and was out of milk for the tea.
It had nothing to do with the people - I quite like them! I have to admit that I really don’t like people dropping in without calling me ahead of time! Preferably at least a day or two, and asking me if I feel like company. Does that sound anti-social? Maybe it’s being selfish, but I was just wanting to sit outside and read my book (The Robe) and do nothing.
Am I the only one who feels this way? I know they don’t come to see my house or expect goodies, but I still like to be prepared when someone is coming over. Ok, tell me truthfully if anyone else feels this way or it’s only me.
I’m with you 100%
And for all your valid reasons.
I used to do that cause I was lonely, but eventually I figured it out.
I’m with you 100%!
Not only is it unwelcome, it is RUDE!
I have discouraged it so much it no longer
happens here.
Hubby and I have pretty much become recluse.
We like it that way.
Ditto, a phone call or text to ASK is only being polite. Anything else is rude.
(But it’s OK norsky, I don’t expect guys to have the same social cues as women. Hope you wanted to just drop in on someone when we were driving penny around. This guy lives in the middle of nowhere, I’m assuming on purpose. I told him to at least call, even if it was from the mailbox. lol.)
I really value my alone time. I wasn’t calling it being a recluse, but maybe that fits! When hubby is gone on travel or to visit family, I take full advantage of all that alone time. That’s when I color my hair, wear grungy clothes and work outside, reorganize my cabinets putting everything on the counters, or spend all day reading with nobody interrupting me. I cherish that time.
I woould probably pretend like I wasn’t home if that happened like with that couple you know. Kind of hard to do if I don’t have the blinds drawn. LOL.
My Family have been pop-ins since I was a little kid. I guessing it was depression behavior hold-over.
I don’t do it to anybody without asking if it’s ok if I stop over.
Do I mind ? with friends - sometimes...with family ? no.
I have a friend we grew up with, who now lives in San Diego, and he pop-in calls once a year to see if we are still alive. Too Funny !