[RoseofTexas]

I had to sign the papers to put my young sister in hospice. She had suffered three strokes…two the week before the major one. She was intubated and given sedatives to control her trying to pull the tube out of her mouth. To this day, I feel incredibly bad to have put her in hospice. But the neurologist told me it was the best thing to do for her. But I’m wondering if she still could’ve made it through. Anyways, all these what IFs go through your head constantly. I miss her so much! 🥲 there are days I feel very very regretful. Her hospice stay was short.

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But I’m wondering if she still could’ve made it through. Anyways, all these what IFs go through your head constantly.

Yeah. Sometimes there is no "right" decision. We do the best we can with what we've got and what we know at the time. The best we can doesn't always feel like the best we could have if we'd only known.

Forgiving ourselves for not doing enough, when at the time it was the best we could do, seems impossibly difficult.

[Vigilanteman]

Ease up on yourself. I had a similar decision with my Mom on whether I should put a feeding tube in her, let nature take its course or feed her through an IV drip. This was in her last week of life and she shortly lost the ability to communicate with me. Since he had made me promise no feeding tube and I did not have the heart to allow her to starve herself to death, I opted for the IV.

It was a tough decision at the time, but I know now that I did the right thing, more than nine years later.