I was never a SAHM b/c I was divorced and received no child support. We bought a house in the “hood” then I had saved up enough money to buy in a nice rural village. Parents actually showed up for Parent-Teacher night unlike the urban schools. Tired of the house being broken into (attempted) while my kids were at home and I was at my second job.
I did buy my kids a Sega game set and Nintendo with chess but would confiscate the power cord when they fought (they were latch key kids). My son is married, in the Air Force and is working on a masters in electrical engineering, currently deployed in Saudi Arabia with one 2.5 yr old daughter.
Older daughter is in retail management and happily married for 20 years.
Never in trouble with the law and are productive citizens.
Sounds like you set a great example!