There's no teaming up with the Democrats in this effort to remove McCarthy. they see an opportunity for chaos, and they are playing along.
I think I would probably be put into your second group, which I interpret to be idealists. But I was in the first category for decades and have been disappointed without respite. So, faced with an unpalatable reality or a dreamy idealism, I've decided to go with the fantasy for a while. Believe it or not, it brings me more joy.
A lot of RATs not showing up to vote including Pelosi.