I believe that in the 1990’s when the conditions of the USSR break-up were being settled there was a desire for real peace on both sides. Subsequent NATO leadership blew it.
https://nsarchive.gwu.edu/briefing-book/russia-programs/2017-12-12/nato-expansion-what-gorbachev-h
sorry - try this: file:///C:/Users/Jim/Desktop/NATO%20-%20Russia/NATO%20Expansion%20What%20Gorbachev%20Heard%20National%20Security%20Archive.htm