God Bless you.
Okay heads up.
The number of single elderly is growing, and it has nothing particularly to do with angry white females. It is an apolitical thing across races. The “family” has faded as a focus of lives. If you are not among them, fine, but that doesn’t affect the numbers.
There are senior centers in pretty much all communities. It can become a social focus for this category. Have a look around, even if you don’t want one. They do exist.
As for the horrors of a nursing home, these places are regulated thoroughly to insist on staff/resident ratios and staff credentials. They are expensive as hell, and that would not be so if they were hiring uncredentialed people.
Average stay at a nursing home is only 14 months, and at the end of that time people do not go home. They die. But note that is an average. There is a large standard deviation. Many are there recovering from injury so they do go home after a few months. And many are there for many years.
Private apartment, meals included, nursing daily that ensures meds taken, usually various social activities. Memory care (aka Alzheimers happens too). These things are expensive. They can be well over $100K/yr, and usually net worth is wiped out and Medicaid takes over.
Research your area. The places are not horrible. They compete. If they were horrible people would go elsewhere.