The big problem with them is that the husband/boyfriend isn't allowed to present his side to the judge.
As for this case the Rats are employing their typical lawfare strategy when it comes to the 2nd Amendment...delay,delay,delay.
You make excellent points, but there’s more: the defendant has very little chance of avoiding the restraining order becoming permanent because the only thing the complainant has to testify to is that he/she (usually she) was put in fear of bodily harm. This is obviously so subjective that it is virtually impossible to refute. The exception would be the husband is a quadriplegic or similarly incapable of harming anyone at all.
There is always the right for the defendant to request a hearing on quashing the restraining order, usually held within 10 days.
That said, most of the time a RO is used a tool to screw the male.