And the biggest is to keep it in his pants if he’s not ready for the consequences, and should be paying support.
Precisely. IF you don’t want a child don’t engage in behavior that leads to babies
Once again, my story:
I’ve mentioned before on FR how my mother sat this farm boy down the evening of my 16th birthday (before I left for town to see my friends, and cruise), and had a one to one talk. Her speech to me was riveting, her eyes locked on to me, as though this was a life or death message. (I knew my parents marriage was not strong. Dad was a Gregory Peck lookalike, and was pursued by various women. Their marriage failed 7 yrs after that speech).
Her love and concern for her children was immeasurable. I was a late bloomer, and when I finally physically matured, getting dates with very attractive girls was easy. Saying no was quite difficult, but I simply wasn’t going to give in to a girl I wasn’t in love with. A few girls dumped me for that reason.
Every guy should have a mom like I had. In that talk to me, she stressed that I respect myself AND the young lady I’m with. To not let myself get talked into something I would regret later. She was VERY emphatic that I not take advantage of a girl, saying if she found out I did, she would slap me HARD!
Then at 23 I was rewarded with a 21 yr old virgin, who made me wait until wedding night 11 months later. We both awkwardly started learning about sex that night, and 44 yrs later (Aug 12th) we still smile about our joint learning experience. The way God intended it to be.