I think she can still sue to get child support from the sperm donor. Since when is 21 too young to have a baby? It may be inconvenient timing, but hardly cradle robbing. There’s a lot of advantages to be a 42 year old grandma.
Even as a male, I received the same messaging from peers, “it’ll ruin your life”. While not my decision the sentiment was the same, “if she has the kid you’re done”.
She decided to have the child, we married 31 years ago. This son is now married to a wonderful wife and they have given us 2 amazing grandkids. We were under 20 at the time, so we’re very young grandparents...which makes it all the more fun.
It made me who I am today, I would not be the same person otherwise. Making it through college while working, trying to pay the rent and put food on the table was incredibly hard. I didn’t always succeed. Nobody cared about my ‘white privilege’...things may be different for me now but I know where I came from.
I don’t know why 21 would be too young, either. My mother had me at 19, and she married Dad after she got pregnant with me. My grandparents on both sides loved me.
Why is it so hard for some families to just do that?