Many women abort the only child they may ever have. They may marry, or may not. But they often end up very alone as they get older. The marriage doesn’t work out and then what? I see a lot of these women in healthcare — very neurotic and often lonely, depressed, most often always struggling financially and no one to rely on.
It saddens me that women AND men are rarely given the “option” of: “get married anyway, and make it work.” It’s always: an unintended pregnancy is a horrible inconvenience that is going to ruin your life. You’ve got better things to do right now, and you can’t possibly do any of these things with a child weighing you down — you’re not ready to have a child!”
We need to change the message and the thinking.
This describes a sister-in-law to a "T". She ended up with three husbands but with no children and now has a hard life - mostly because of her abortion initially and some other bad choices. She lives near us now and we and one of our daughters try to help her keep her head above water financially and out of her depression/loneliness. She regrets her choice but there is no way to turn it around. What could have been a wonderful life for her turned out rough.
We need to change the message and the thinking.
Precisely. Many of these women will regret their abortion(s) but the damage is so hard to undo either physically or psychologically. That child is always there but missing and, in her heart, she knows she is responsible.