“What I can’t figure out ...”
*** Figuring out crazy is pretty tough. In fact, it might well be impossible***
I was talking with a friend of mine who is a counselor, and I said something about trying to understand the irrational behavior of a family member. She said something that’s stuck with me ever since. You can’t make sense out of irrational/crazy thoughts that others have, because they are irrational by definition, and will never make any sense. So stop trying. It has really helped me let go when someone else does something that I don’t understand.
I still do wish we could help people though. It seems like we should be able to do SOMETHING.