I blame the mother because SHE is the person who let this idiot around her kids... PERIOD.
I see this stupid crap again and again. My kids come first? Really, if they came first why do you let some douchebag around them?
Want to increase the likelihood your child will be sexually molested 100 fold, if not more... bring your “boyfriend” around them.
No, its not FAIR... but if you are a single mother, you should assume EVERY SINGLE MAN YOU MEET is a potential negative to your kids lives.. period... IF you really put your kids first, you keep that out of their lives.
If I got involved with a single woman who had kids, and she wanted me around her kids quickly I’d walk away. That’s wrong on so many levels.. no idea if it will work out, so puts your kids (especially if they are young) in a situation where they can bond and then see that man walk away through no fault of their own.. That’s A HUGE RED FLAG FOR ME... and no woman should be doing it (Or single father either)...
Have your boyfriend, have someone watch the kids while you get your adult time, but bringing them around your kids? Nope.
Does it work out, sure it does sometimes.. but I watch women just do stupid stuff again and again in this situation... He says he wants to meet your kids... OF COURSE HE DOES.. HE KNOWS THEY ARE IMPORTANT TO OU AND HE LIKES GETTING HIS D*CK WET, Why would he say anything else? Does that mean he SHOULD be around your kids?
If you are not to a point where you are considering getting engaged to someone, they really shouldn’t be around your kids, period.... Get to that point then you need to cross that bridge.. your kids have no business being around your boyfriends.
Not playing these stupid make excuses for it game... YOu can play that PC stupidity all you want, I will have no part of it. Have your boyfriend, go out with him... have someone watch your kids while you go out on dates, but they really have no business being around your kids, you are putting them at risk, in all kinds of ways, physically and emotionally if you are letting the men you date around your children.
Look, I’m not saying she is innocent here. My sole point is that not one of you, not one, puts any blame or responsibility on this guy. Stop blaming victims, even if they contribute to the situation. Put the blame on the actual perpetrator. Stop with the virtuos arm-chair quarterbacking.