“One is not permitted to harass people”
I have lived over a large swath of the country, and I have daily seen harassment in the form of angry words. There is no law against that, as far as I know.
I don’t know, sounds like you hang out with a rough group. I grew up in Manhattan and have lived in the NY/NJ metro area my entire life and I have never seen stuff like that on a daily basis. Sometimes yes, of course. But not every day.
Full disclosure: as of right now I wouldn’t set foot in NYC if I could avoid it and remain worried about my brother who still lives there. He’s no tough guy, but he is tall, so hopefully he’ll stay safe.