The problem is “reality is what you believe it to be” (i.e., post-modernism).”
Precisely.
I have yet to hear these post-modernists explain how one’s identification of THEMSELF can dictate or alter reality, but one’s identification of another cannot.
If reality is malleable to our own perception, why would it be limited to the Self??
If Bob identifies as a trans-human Coyote named Naim, the reality of his self-ID is said to be unquestionable. If I, in my own perception of reality, identify Bob as BOB, how can my perception be any less valid, and how can I be said to be mis-gendering, etc.?
Complete lunacy!
The chaos created by postmodernism has already made our culture wobbly. All it will take is one good shove and it will fall flat on its face.