You are focused on WHY they wanted a divorce. That is a separate subject. That gets into whether they should have been granted one.
I’m just arguing that that is WHAT they wanted. And the north said no.
And yes, I think the north was correct. But at the end of the day it is that one side wanted out of the union and the other side said no, and they went to war over it. That’s all.
And to apply it to today, do we allow a divorce, or do we fight for the union?
Yes, I see your point - but there’s differences...
We fought a Revolution to get a ‘divorce’ from England... But the real issue wasn’t tax so much as we didn’t want to be married to England anymore - for lots of reasons.
But that situation (the founding of our country) is still different from today because England wanted to keep us - for their financial benefit.
In our case - today - both sides want out. That’s why it can be negotiated.