The other problem is somewhat human nature. Women, now equipped with more information and choice overwhelmingly go for the top 10-15% of men. Great for those guys whether it’s because they won the genetic lottery or because they were born to rich parents. In fact in one study I saw, a large group of women and men rated each other. The men rated the women on a standard bell curve. The women however rated 80% of men as “below average”. Obviously that’s statistically impossible, but it shows the skewed thinking of women when assessing mating prospects.
The lucky guys at the top have it made. They get to screw their way through college and their 20s and often casually discard average or only slightly above average women because they can. Meanwhile most guys get very little if any female attention. The smart women figure out before 30 and realize it’s unrealistic for them to expect to land an 8 or a 9 if they themselves are only a 5. So they pick a good guy who rates about where they are but who has some sense and who sets himself up for a successful career.
The foolish/delusional/unrealistic women wait until 30 when every single last day of their youth is gone and only then out of desperation start going for guys they should have gone for 5-10 years earlier. Often guys they specifically rejected earlier! Only now those guys in their early to mid 30s who are climbing up the ladder of success don’t want those women. They’re too old and the guys know those women are just desperate and don’t truly want to be with them anyway. In other words, there is very little prospect of a happy or successful marriage. No, those guys want what those women WERE, not what they ARE. So they too go for the 20-something women.
The result is a lot of unhappily single people.
Very accurate assessment
“The other problem is somewhat human nature. Women, now equipped with more information and choice overwhelmingly go for the top 10-15% of men. Great for those guys whether it’s because they won the genetic lottery or because they were born to rich parents. In fact in one study I saw, a large group of women and men rated each other. The men rated the women on a standard bell curve. The women however rated 80% of men as “below average”. Obviously that’s statistically impossible, but it shows the skewed thinking of women when assessing mating prospects.
The lucky guys at the top have it made. They get to screw their way through college and their 20s and often casually discard average or only slightly above average women because they can. Meanwhile most guys get very little if any female attention. The smart women figure out before 30 and realize it’s unrealistic for them to expect to land an 8 or a 9 if they themselves are only a 5. So they pick a good guy who rates about where they are but who has some sense and who sets himself up for a successful career.
The foolish/delusional/unrealistic women wait until 30 when every single last day of their youth is gone and only then out of desperation start going for guys they should have gone for 5-10 years earlier. Often guys they specifically rejected earlier! Only now those guys in their early to mid 30s who are climbing up the ladder of success don’t want those women. They’re too old and the guys know those women are just desperate and don’t truly want to be with them anyway. In other words, there is very little prospect of a happy or successful marriage. No, those guys want what those women WERE, not what they ARE. So they too go for the 20-something women.”
I think this phenomenon was once labeled “Poindexter’s Revenge!”
This is worth a listen to explain this phenomenon further:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WeaTRbsm2UA