The idea is not to get killed, it's to kill the other guy (to paraphrase Patton). Military service is not and never should be an "equal opportunity employer". You pick your combatants carefully, arm and train them as best you can and turn them loose. War is organized murder and that will never change.
Women (and men who want to be women) are actually useless for combat - except to impede your own side. We discriminate against paraplegics, the blind, the old, the infirm and the mentally ill in military combat units - no reason at all that we should change that if we intend to win.
You lose your bet. Like I said, I used to think like you. Times have changed. Take the concept of mercy. My concept runs like this, If I kill you now you won’t have to live in my ideological state. Ghat is my mercy. Do you have any concept of how much the country is infested? If the forces aligned against the idea of the Republic? Don’t think for one minute that this is my preferred state. It is not. Better them than us. Think stout our enemy, he will offer us no mercy.