My daughter recently gave birth to a baby with a rare brain disorder that will require constant seizure management. He looks perfectly healthy, but he will not develop like other kids.
For the first few months she said she was in mourning for her baby boy who will not have a normal life. And, I said to her, "When it all said and done and you two met in heaven, he will be perfectly whole and he will be singing your praises for lovingly taking care of his needs."
What a beautiful thing to say to your daughter. I hope it eased her pain.