I think I’ve identified the problem by watching HGTV.
They have all of these house hunter shows where a young couple goes looking for a home in some exotic location and the realtor shows them three. Then they have to decide.
Despite somehow being fortunate enough to be able to afford a home approaching a one million listing price by age thirty-something, these women invariably criticize and nitpick and rip each of them to shreds.
THAT right there is your problem.
As Prince observed, maybe you’re just like my mother. She’s never satisfied.
As an aside, I once came across a paper where somebody did research as to price of wedding versus marriage longevity, and found a negative correlation.
It makes sense to me. A woman who just HAS to have a fairy-tale princess wedding, is not going to be satisfied, long term, with any actual mortal as a husband.
I know the point you are making, but when it comes to TV shows, they have to add conflict and drama to keep viewers interested. A lot of that nitpicking may be scripted. Why can’t they make the man be the whiny nitpicker some of the time? I guess they play to the stereotypes.
Quite.
My line: when one realizes he can do nothing right, he will do the one thing he _can_ do right - nothing.
Adding to your point: not only does she nitpick, she does not express any indication that _she_ will correct it (to any degree). She expects everything will be made better just because she did, or will, express dissatisfaction.
He’s ok with most of the “problems” because he’s standing there mentally evaluating the time/money/effort required vs all the other issues, and knows there’s only so much time/money/effort _he_ can commit to improvement - after already committing to a million-dollar purchase.