[rlmorel]

I agree 100%.

Any man who looks at a woman as being anything less than an equal partner in a relationship is setting it up for failure.

I was lucky-I was raised this way, to respect women and treat them with respect.

I got married a bit later, and before we got married, I told my future wife that I needed straightforwardness. I would not participate in any head games.

I told her that if I asked her how she was doing, and she said “Fine” then I wasn’t going to play mind games, read her body language, or anything else. I would accept her at her word and assume she was “fine”.

That has serve me well.

All those things you state are true in my estimation.

[pburgh01]

I told her that if I asked her how she was doing, and she said “Fine” then I wasn’t going to play mind games, read her body language, or anything else. I would accept her at her word and assume she was “fine”.

I read all the time men should learn to speak "Womanese". This kind of crap, when they say "Fine" and then really are not. You tell me fine and you are not,...that is on you. Women and men have to speak the SAME language, unhealthy women and men do not say what they want and play bull*it games like this. I don't play them now.

My current squeeze, 4 years now, she did this in the beginning, because she dated a real desperate, damaged guy before me. I would simply say..."Hey when you are ready to talk I am willing to listen, but I am heading out". For a few times I waited her out a week or so and she would text\call. She tried a few more times and after that she knew the passive\aggressive stuff would not work. Now we kind of joke about...she knows she had control issues.