I never said men age better.
Testosterone kills men
Given the low levels in post boomer generations those boys will likely catch up to y’all
Women lose interest in sex before men do....in my generation
I realize freeper women will say not I.....I can only go on what I’ve seen and experienced my entire life
I know one exception...
A lot of men never lose sex drive, this is why so many old widowers remarry and old widow women don’t
The women don’t need a man
The old men do need a woman
This is not new but it’s a major factor in later in life divorces
And it’s not for younger more supple women..that’s a canard frequently
Men want a woman who’s emotionally available and intimate....it’s not just the sex act..this is something women seem to never grasp
Big shock men want to be wanted desired and loved and shagged ...even when we’re old
Many women older just don’t care about all that. Is what I see..
And no I’m not talking precisely about me although I admit when I look at my wife I still see her as late 20s CMT vid babe in a thong on an adult beach in Florida in her late 20s
She of course doesn’t see herself like that
I saw it happen to my dad....after 35 years of monogamy and providing my mom a great life....the door shut the year before he died and he was distraught with hurt..
It was pitiful
My mother in law....same thing and early on...mid 40s
Several other female relatives as recounted to me by uncles etc as adults ...
My peer group of over 50 married men.....this is a very common theme
Witty women here will retort that oh yeah buster maybe they just don’t want sex with these husbands
Ad absurdim retort ..
All these men can’t be jerks
I’ve seen women here scorn viagara cause it’s made this worse...
The way I see if is this
Women learn early on that sex is a tool for punishment and reward and it can become a power position....
Fine..
Later when for whatever reason women lose the desire and pull it back then they had better not pull back emotional availability and intimacy along with the sex
That’s what drives otherwise decent men to stray.
To be fair you can also say a man who doesn’t tend to her needs is open to her straying too....for sure
Do some men quit wanting sex at some point..yes but much later..or when they die or become incapacitated
Another poster basically told me to just ignore these realities for the sake of kids
Like I said so far it’s not an issue for me...and given my bad heart I’ll for sure not outlive my drive and desires
But honestly I’m not sure my wife would remarry and she’s only 53....54 last week....I’m almost 62
Not cause I’m so great but cause she doesn’t really need a man at this point she’s just stuck with one for 25 years and counting
She’s said it precisely “ I’ve got my sons and daughters ans two grandsons who are babies and her two male uncut Rottweilers and a nice house with acreage and horses and plenty of money especially if I’m dead....what do I need a man for now...I’ll just go to yoga more..
Those are her words precisely
Folks are living longer and that makes all this more an issue and women don’t go all fat and blue hair and frumpy ..like in my church youth in the 60s
At least not in the south for upper middle class women
What about a drug for post menopausal women and desire....well to be honest....would women want it
Cause then comes pressure to stay looking good
Tell me it isn’t complicated...
I know girls here think husbands should just quit worrying about sex when wifey quits .
That’s a tall order
Women have been fed so much crap no matter y’all hate the realities ...my favorite lie is a woman’s sexual peak in forties...
Bull ...a woman’s sexual peak is when she is consumed with wanting a baby inside her....they will run a man ragged...I know trust me on this one....that’s not to say girls are not more powerful sexually than men....they are infinitely .
If their mind is clear
Anyhow...sorry to rant....like I said I’m commenting on what I see..
I will likely die early and not have to deal with it
My wife however imperfect like myself is a good sport and understands boys and stays in great shape ...but most of my peers ...don’t have such luck
Wow, wardaddy, that was quite a post. I’ve seen the pictures of your wife in your about section and you are indeed quite lucky. I am quite lucky in that regard as well. I am 60 and my wife is 59. Even at 59 she is so interested in sex that I sometimes have a hard time keeping up. She has never had children so I don’t know if that makes a difference. She does ride her horses every day, though, and some folks suggest that the physical nature of that activity keeps a woman’s juices flowing. Anyway, I think it’s very difficult to generalize about such things. I do wish Todd and Sarah well. I’m guessing neither will remain unattached for long.