Most enablers are the kindest, most loving people ever. They have poor (or no) boundaries and mistake love for endorsement.
They therefore can’t say no to any demand by a “loved one”. And they think it is immoral to refuse the addict, the over-spender, the abuser any demand. If they scream, if they’re mad, it makes the enabler think THEY are bad for hurting the bully or entitled jerk.
Empathy is not charity. Love is not what defines moral or good. And many of the worst personal choices are because we do what someone who we love demands despite what is right.
As a political ideology, social justice is maternal love turned into smothering tyranny.
“Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron’s cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience.”
By C.S. Lewis
As a political ideology, social justice is maternal love turned into smothering tyranny.
Profound and utterly accurate!