The romantic element doesn’t belong on the combat team. To quote Donald Trump...”What do you expect”...and imagine how bad it will be with predatory homosexuals as drill sergeants. I was in one unit where the chaplain was getting weekly complaints from new female enlisted soldiers about the butch female NCO’s in the female barracks. You can imagine how the predisposition of people to serve declines when they go home and tell of their experiences. The Modern Romans.
There is no romantic in any of this.
This is about power and aggression, not romance.