Yep - forgiveness is an internal device that keeps us from stewing in the bile of continued antipathy....
Like the lady who had her friend helping her with a guest list for a party she was throwing. Her friend looked the list over and exclaimed, "I see Jane is on your list, she needs to be dropped because of what she did to you a few years ago. Her name here must be a mistake."
The lady said, "Jane stays on the list - it wasn't an oversight or mistake that she's there."
Her friend said, But, don't you remember what she did to you?"
The lady said, "Of course I remember it. I also distinctly remember forgetting it."
"Forgetting" isn't always forgetting as part of the forgiveness process..it is a conscious decision to allow one to get on with life...if one is ma mature enough adult to pull it off.
Golda Meir once said:
“We can forgive you for killing our children, but we shall never forgive you for making us kill yours’”