Here’s the problem as I see it. We as men (I’m 58) have been raised with hearing these arguments and that women are equal. So you find a woman and things progress to marriage and then you start to hear from the woman that she need to stay home...
What happened to the equal thing? Now you want to put it all on my shoulders so you can sit around and do nothing all day and then when I get home order me about. You want vacations, then work to pay for it. You want a new car, then work to pay for it. I’m sorry but that’s how I’ve come to feel.
And if you start dating woman in her 40’s, then that is her secret plan, get married and then “retire” while you work the next 25 plus years...
Protip: if you live in California, and it has become obvious it's not working out, do NOT wait until you've been married 7 years. At that magic point, California law assumes that being associated with a man permanently ruins a woman ability to make her way in the big scary world, and alimony payments NEVER expire until one of you do!