The "game" is played that way because that is what women want. Just look at the "plot" of romance novels and crap like "50 Shades of Grey". Those are women who consume those products.
The production & acceptance of this drivel is orchestrated by what the philosopher Yours truly would call a dominant Leftist culture
Don't ask. Make your move without using any words. If the girl is not into you, she will let you know and you can stop wasting time and money on her. Once the girl says 'not that' or 'no' when you are pushing things forward, take no for an answer and don't try to cross that boundary at that time. Maybe another night or later that night, the 'no' will fade away. If you ask, you are simply going to hear 'NO' every time and you will be known as a "really nice guy". And you want to avoid that unless you're into being alone on weekend nights.
Yeah, this cuck and his blue balls can watch porno and toss off in his New York City broom closet and hope some ugly witch hits on him so he can be assured that he has her consent. At least these crank-yankers aren't gonna breeding anytime soon and they'll just abort any life they do create.