I actually don't have any idea at all what you are talking about. I guess some kind of weird reality that you have made up from your own assumptions. The uncles and older male cousins were never the problem I mentioned when I was a kid... it was the actual aunties and older female cousins also called aunties who couldn't keep their gross slobbery lips off of us. And there was nothing sexual about it as you seem to keep fixating on. The women used to love planting slobbery kisses on young kids at family get togethers when I was growing up. Part of the problem was alcohol related, but it was a different time with different behaviors that were considered acceptable.
“Part of the problem was alcohol related, but it was a different time with different behaviors that were considered acceptable. “
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What is flying under the radar is that often what was considered bad actions related to issues with alcohol often included sexual contacts. It was swept under the rug, like you mentioned yourself when you typed ‘..different behaviors that were considered acceptable.”
I didn’t mention the Old Slobbering Aunts because you already mentioned being uncomfortable with them; felt you didn’t need further explanation.
Everyone assumes Slobbering Female family members were just a bit too drunk and well...they’re just like that..what can you do...? Well, I don’t for a minute believe that all those females were just a bit too drunk and did that without thinking.
Let me pose a scenario.
There seems to be a lot of female teachers intent on ‘educating’ the young teens as well as older teens in the sexual nuances. It’s always been assumed they were/are an aberration. I maintain they are not an aberration, that they are in fact, the result of the female libido running amok.
Does everyone really believe that these female teachers or females in position of power just suddenly find themselves turned on by youngsters or those under their control?
These teachers have nieces and nephews and cousins. I maintain that if researched deeply enough and with enough family honesty, there would be identifiable traits with them such as the same with the men.
I realize this is a Hot Button with me. I also realize it’s not with many others. I raised my boys to not let anyone, and I meant ANYONE touch them in ANY way without their approval.
When my eldest went for his school examination the doctor came out and said my son wouldn’t let him examine him unless he was given a good enough reason and with my approval (as the adult who took him to the doctor’s office). He was quite puzzled. I gave him the reasons and the doctor actually told me he wished more parents were as clear with their children on the safety of their bodies.
My eldest is 40 and engaged, saving himself for his beautiful bride. He was not warped or flawed with my instrustions. He’s told me several times he was glad for my strict instructions on this particular issue.
I’ll get off my soapbox. I just wanted to explain my belief and reasons. If you read this to this point, I want to thank you, Fireman15 for your patience.