The main alternative to doing what is best for your children...is NOT doing what is best for your children.
You are in the best position to determine what is best for your children - often by an enormous amount. If you don’t do what is best for your children, then most likely no one else will.
The biggest “privilege” there is, is having two parents who marry before pregnancy, and stay married through the raising of the child.
Any couple (1 man, 1 woman) can take access that "privilege". Skin color or any other accident of birth has no bearing on the matter.
I’m waiting for the left to call for banning marriage, or penalizing it, because it is “too much better” for kids and gives them an unfair advantage.