Even in my ultra liberal Kaiser maternity ward in California, the nurse told me and my wife when we were if she could give one bit of advice it was, “Don’t let anyone else raise your kid for you”.
I've had various arguments over the years with people, both on and off on-line forums, who took issue over my contention that full-time career moms are essentially not raising their children. They became indignant and claimed that, somehow, providing childcare for their children WAS "raising their own children."
I just couldn't connect.