So true. Ruins many churches and schools. I am a woman, but was fortunate to work mainly with men, and I actually took classes to learn how to communicate directly and negotiate to solve problems. Best money I ever spent. But women friends who can do the same are few and far between.
My female relatives are aghast if I call a problem out and ask how we can make it better. Instead they talk behind each other's backs and lie to each other''s faces, and some spats can last for years without getting solved.
Many women do not keep promises and justify abandoning or betraying agreements because something subsequently triggered their emotions. Men are more likely to accept or create workable rules and stick by practical agreements in day-tp-day circumstances.
Sad, but this is my experience.
Great post.