Nations do not normally establish relations to rebellions so the non-recognition shows the US was considered one country not two even though it cost them a huge amount.
Jefferson’s first act as president was to aid the French in reconquering Haiti.
It didn’t matter what other countries thought. They didn’t get a veto if the newly independent country could survive on its own. Early recognition is useful if it means support, like the French and Dutch in the Revolution.
France was eager to recognize the nascent US in 1778 because it suited their long term rivalry with Great Britain. They had been plotting revenge since their loss in 1763.
But it wasn’t necessarily that great for the US once the war ended. France didn’t want a powerful United States. And by 1793 the friendship was fraying.