Yes, those are the issues I see. My take on the first is similar to yours.
I am not in agreement on the gay parentage. I think the child’s rights are paramount. Despite all the love and caring a gay family could provide, children need a father & a mother as role models. Many children don’t get them but that is an accident of fate and admittedly makes it much harder for them to succeed in life. To deliberately create a child who will have such burdens growing up is callous no matter how well meaning.
This is a topic where people hold strong beliefs and courteous discussion is not the norm. Thank you for the opportunity.
I agree the child’s rights are paramount. But it’s hard to give over the children’s rights protection to any agency or attorney. I don’t like what has happened “for the children” in family court or even in “charities” like the one Hillary Clinton worked for once. Look what she did for the child who was brutally raped early in her career.
One thing that turned me away from adoption was the stories where a judge would rip a small child from the only family it had ever known, BASICALLY DESTROYING THE CHILD’S ONLY SECURITY, and handing the little one to a total stranger, a man who had once screwed the child’s birth mother and shows up 4 years later to claim “his” kid. How could that ever be in a child’s interest?
Nor would I wrench a child away from two men who had raised him for years. I would only take a child away from whom he knows as parents in kidnapping or abuse cases.