I think you need some help with the statistics. 11% is the total of intimates killed who had a restraining order. People that fight get police calls, arrested, EMT treatments and, yes, restraining orders. Guess who gets restrained regardless of who starts the fight? The male. 99% of the time.
And, your statistics do not reveal how many of those restraining orders were provoked by mutual combat. Until you have stood in an arraignment room for a couple dozen Monday mornings, when Saturday night carnage is assessed, as I have, you will not understand that drunken and jealous women cause their share of this carnage, but, as I said before, they are not usually very good at it. Hence, when it turns fatal, women get buried, men go to prison.
Good point. The hectoring female who goads the male into violence, and then suffers for it, is never held respnsible. In the same way, it’s much easier for women to kill “in self defense” and get away with it.
You are talking about fighting couples. My statement is about men who get rejected or left. Do you understand the difference?