I adopted a child from a druggie mother, right out of the box and still wet.
She is 6 now and a handful, and I wonder how much of that is genetic. She requires a strong hand.
I still know the birth mom, who recently stopped using meth, and who has 2 previous children by two different fathers who did time in 2 different prisons.
Needless to say that those 2 kids are on a career path to loser town. In fact, their fate has been sealed by now. It is too late to help them.
May God bless you and keep you strong and determined to break the mold. What you instill in her right now is very very important.
Of course you understand that not all children born to druggies will be effected by their mom’s habit. I think that you can nurture and remold a young mind and set them upon the right path. And that’s all we can do is our best to succeed in parenting.
Some kids are just naturally very strong willed and require diversions and strict parenting to develop. If she learns a righteous moral code it will over ride what ever impulses challenges she will face as she matures. Watch her like a hawk and don’t succumb to complacency when she becomes a teenager in the distant future. Know her friends and their parents and support each other.
Sometimes a very controlled environment like a private school or home school is a much safer environment and less risky than allowing (potentially at risk) children to circulate in public schools, particularly after elementary school.
The negative choices regarding drugs and sex in private school will be minimal in comparison to the exposure with the masses. The beginning of Middle school is a wise time to exit government schools. Her worst choice might be whether to roll up her skirt one inch to high as opposed to experimenting with crack or meth. And when she gets a phone one day, monitor it - (again) like a hawk.