Some things, and I think this is one of them, are better left unsaid.
Leaving things unsaid is part of what has caused this big #me-too tsunami. Among other things I think it is important for men to understand that some things that may not feel quite right in their relatings with with wives and girlfriends might have nothing to do with them. What may be required is patience and understanding, or willingness to forego things that are painful/uncomfortable to the other person. Of course this can also work for women regarding aspects of their men’s feelings and behavior.