I have a friend exactly like that - I used to take it as a personal insult, like she considered her time more valuable than mine. Then I read an article that there is a category of late people who are not trying to diss anyone; they truly think they can fit in more to a certain time slot than is appropriate, then they are always surprised it doesn’t work and they are late to the next thing. It’s like a mental defect. And then she does not seem to have the same shame that I do if I’m late to something - we once had to drive 30 minutes away to an exclusive cooking class which we were late to because of her - of course everybody stared at us when we walked in and I was mortified, her attitude was, “Oh, we weren’t that late!”
It’s truly a different mindset that will never change.
You got it perfectly.
I agree with you completely. Though many people resent people who are late....these late people, they just don’t have a clue.
She does seem to try and fit more into a time span than is possible. For example, every choir practice if we chanced to go together, she’d spend maybe ten, fifteen minutes going through her pocketbook looking for....well I don’t know what. I had everything in order and left to make the practice on time.
Since the concept of walking in late to stuff is so horrifying to me, and I see you too....how can these people be so cavalier? She got furious with the choir director who told her that coming too late for pre-mass practice will keep her from singing. Why can’t she just arrive on time? We’re only talking 15 minutes here for God’s sake.
She quit the choir and I know it was because sooner or later she’d be late and have sit out the singing.
It’s like they know in advance that their life is built on lateness.
I just don’t get it.
I tell them my departure time is my departure time + 10 minutes. Whether they are there or not or phone in late or not.
This has caused alot of fights with family members who think 5 minutes means an hour and tomorrow means next week ... or the next ....