If you show weakness or let them know they’re getting to you, it’s like blood in the water to sharks.
They’ll pour it on all the more.
The best thing to do is either dish it right back, and self-defense training would come in very handy for that, or ignore it.
And then the parents could always homeschool, which is no guarantee against encountering bullies, but greatly reduces the likelihood.
“homeschool, which is no guarantee against encountering bullies, but greatly reduces the likelihood.”
LOL, I have a certain someone in my son’s life, who is so worried about whether he is “socialized” and that home-schooled kids aren’t being “socialized”.
I could tell this person what being “socialized” did for ME in school! Being picked on incessantly and forever steering clear of my “peers”!
What would happen if this behavior happened in the workplace?
Why are **children** expected to cope with an environment that an adult would quickly leave for another job, win millions in a lawsuit, or would bring felony charges against the abusers?
Why do we place **children** into such an environment? It is not only spiritually and emotionally and sometimes physically damaging to the abused children but also to the abuser and the cooperating witnesses?
Self defense is the key.
Growing up as a kid with birth defects (Physically twisted arms and legs) I can tell everyone what bullying looks like, and what it doesn’t look like.
In high school I ran a kid down with my car. I took on the biggest bully and just beat him senseless when he threatened me.
Funny story about the whole “Bully turned bullied thing”. When I was very young, one of my first retaliations, I beat up my bully with a broom. We got taken to the office and about 4 hours spent on teaching me about how to and not to deal with bullies. I was paraded in front of my bully and made to apologize, made to shrink back into a role that I didn’t want to be in. It was humiliating and was actually worse than the originally bullying.
After we were released to class, I followed him back to his class and grabbed a broom and beat him again. Within minutes of being released.
I did that because I wasn’t done. People said that I turned into a bully myself, but I disagreed. I felt I was a warrior. I faced my attacker head-on once and was stopped. Even after being bullied by the adults again and put on display as a pathetic, weak, deformed victim I still had to win that fight.
The other kid got bullied horribly after that. He actually worked out in later years and started to bully other kids (Likely steroids involved there) but he would turn around and change direction if he ever saw me coming.
Bullying is a word that is harming the whole thing. It has a definition that isn’t accurate. A bully is only put down by one thing: Defense. It’s offense/defense.
I am the living example of how important self defense training is. When I was small and getting beat on, I didn’t have what it took to fight back. I used weapons. I seriously hurt my young attackers. My friend was also bullied in high school. He arrived one day with a very thick chain and beat on his bully. The bully was hospitalized and suffered from seizures for the rest of his life.
Kids must be taught to defend themselves or else they’ll escalate. Lemme tell you, once I beat the snot out of my attackers (Not bullies ... attackers) I was a short, skinny, deformed poor kid with a single mom who had friends, popularity, attractive girlfriends and great times in high school.
All because I learned how to fight. And I learned how to fight because I almost killed some kid because I didn’t know how to fight.